{"id":34946,"date":"2015-02-20T18:36:54","date_gmt":"2015-02-20T23:36:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/?p=34946"},"modified":"2015-02-11T18:38:20","modified_gmt":"2015-02-11T23:38:20","slug":"starting-from-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/2015\/02\/starting-from-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Starting from Love"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"\"\u201cIs it too soon to say I love him?\u201d This message popped up\u00a0on my screen a few days ago. My answer was \u201cNo!\u00a0Start from love and keep opening\u00a0to that love until something triggers you. When it does, stop and recognize\u00a0that\u00a0what is triggering you is something inside you that you don\u2019t like or that\u00a0needs to be healed. When you get that\u00a0trigger, stop and give yourself time to\u00a0sit with it and understand what it is within you that you want to change or\u00a0heal.\u201d<\/p>\n

Less than twelve hours later I was on the phone with a\u00a0client who had ended her relationship with her partner.\u00a0What she said made me\u00a0swell with pride. She recognized that the person she was seeing was backing her\u00a0in a\u00a0corner. Worse yet, she realized this was a reflection of the very thing\u00a0she did not like about herself.\u00a0\u00a0By\u00a0being\u00a0exposed everyday to this person she was continually focusing on the\u00a0exterior issue rather than her own internal\u00a0struggle with the issue. \u201cI don\u2019t\u00a0like this problem in myself; why do I want to deal with it everyday in him?\u201d\u00a0She\u00a0told me. \u201cI would rather spend time dealing with it on my own.\u201d Wow! Her decision\u00a0to remove herself from the\u00a0situation, even though she really loves this person,\u00a0and recognize that she needs to sit with it, understand it, and\u00a0change what was\u00a0happening on the inside, using extreme self-care to do that, is remarkable.<\/p>\n

How many of us can recognize the challenge when we are in\u00a0the midst of the situation? Yes, it is easy for me to\u00a0coach her, I\u2019m at a\u00a0distance; but her recognizing the truth of the situation and putting her self\u00a0above all else \u2013 is\u00a0starting from love \u2013 and the best kind of love. Self-love.<\/p>\n

Although she felt she was \u201ca hot mess right now\u201d I see her\u00a0as more in alignment to her truth than I have ever seen\u00a0her. I am so proud of\u00a0her and, as expected with anyone who is in alignment, the person she was dating\u00a0has\u00a0already reached out to her. Together, they have found out why each of them\u00a0was triggered so intensely. She has\u00a0decided to give herself time to decide what\u00a0she will do in the end, but, for now, there is a deeper understanding of\u00a0that\u00a0which they desire. How many of us start from that kind of love for ourselves?<\/p>\n

In relationships of all kinds, when we start from love, it\u00a0is not the obligation of another to act in a certain way for\u00a0our happiness.\u00a0Rather, we are able to recognize and stay centered in our truths. We are divine\u00a0love and we are\u00a0here to thrive, play, and enjoy our experience. The triggers\u00a0that people bring up for us to recognize are such gifts\u00a0when we are willing to see\u00a0them as they are. We invite people into our lives to hold a mirror before us. Just\u00a0as we\u00a0look into a glass mirror to put on our makeup or tidy our clothes, we would\u00a0not reach out to make adjustments to\u00a0the image before us, but rather reach to\u00a0straighten our own hair and clothes. If we can remember to make the\u00a0adjustments\u00a0in ourselves with the issues we are feeling, then true lasting change will happen\u00a0and we will never\u00a0again start from anywhere but love.<\/p><\/div>\n

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\u201cIs it too soon to say I love him?\u201d This message popped up\u00a0on my screen a few days ago. My answer was \u201cNo!\u00a0Start from love and keep opening\u00a0to that love… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[169],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34946"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34946"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34946\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34946"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34946"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thelehighacresgazette.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34946"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}